Fortune telling: a cognitive distortion

Examples of fortune telling

Fortune telling writes tomorrow’s ending today, and writes it badly. Notice when you are about to act on a forecast as if it were information: skipping the application, avoiding the call, bracing for the no. The habit to build is filing a forecast under forecasts.

The examples below are made up, to show the pattern.

  • At work

    You’re thinking about applying for an internal role. The application would take an evening.

    “There’s no point. They’ve already picked someone.”

    More balanced: I don’t know who else applied. If I don’t apply, the answer is no for certain.

  • In a relationship

    You need to tell a close friend you can’t make her wedding.

    “She’ll never forgive me, and the friendship is finished.”

    More balanced: I don’t know yet how she’ll take it. I can tell her soon and explain why.

  • About yourself

    You sign up for a beginners’ running group.

    “I’ll be the slowest there and I’ll quit within two weeks.”

    More balanced: I might be slow at first. It is a group for beginners.

How to catch fortune telling

When the thought shows up, put these to it, ideally in writing:

  • What would I need to see to know this will really happen?
  • How have my forecasts about things like this turned out before?
  • What are two other ways this could go?
  • Is the prediction stopping me from even trying?

Try it on a thought

Does it contain this trap?

Not a positive spin: what you would say if you stuck to what you know.

Check it against every trap

Questions people ask

How is fortune telling different from catastrophizing?

They overlap: the definition above says fortune telling often predicts the worst case. Here is how a source defines catastrophizing:

Catastrophizing is imagining the worst possible outcome and starting to believe it will happen.

What if my prediction comes true?

Sometimes it will. The aim isn’t optimism, it’s to stop acting as if the result were already decided. Plan for the likely version, and if it is a problem you can act on, put it through the worry tree.

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